Many of us have lost a friend, but when we are older it becomes a more common occurrence.
How do we navigate this grief and overcome our loss?
Losing a close friend can be one of life’s most difficult experiences, especially as we age, and our circles become smaller. The pain of this loss is very real – we’re grieving a deep connection, all the memories and experiences shared, and the vision we had of our friends by our sides in the years ahead. Grief experts validate that there is no “correct” way to mourn a friend, but there are some healthy strategies that can help us cope.
One of the most important things is making time and space to truly feel the grief, whether that’s journaling, crying, or talking through memories with other friends. Reaching out to the friend’s family to share condolences or anecdotes about their loved one can also bring comfort. Many find healing through continuing bonds – doing activities their friend enjoyed, making a memorial donation, or carrying out wishes they’d discussed. Grief is a heavy burden, so don’t be afraid to seek help through counseling or support groups if sadness persists or worsens. Experts also encourage focusing on taking care of ourselves through proper sleep, nutrition and exercise. As difficult as it is, navigating grief is a coping process that ultimately allows us to celebrate the gift our friend’s presence was in our lives.
It’s also important to be patient with ourselves as we adapt to this profound loss. The grief journey has many ups and downs, and it can take months or even years to fully process the impact of a close friend’s passing. Temporary setbacks like temporarily avoiding places tied to memories or struggling on significant dates like birthdays and holidays are normal. What matters most is that we try to continue moving forward, staying connected with our support systems.
Grieving the loss of a friend is never easy, but the sadness itself is a testament to the beautiful bond you shared together. Though they are gone, the warmth and laughter from your times together remain. National Friendship Day can serve as an annual reminder to honor those special relationships and continue nurturing the precious friendships that enrich our lives.
submitted: Navigating Grief After Losing a Friend, Kat Eddy, Marketing & Communications Intern